Dear heartbroken friend,
I know you've waited two years to ask him if whether he likes you and I also know you're heartbroken by his answer. You were so young when he stole your heart. At the tender age of fifteen, you learnt a life lesson. You should have seen it coming when he chased after older girls. You should have witnessed his true nature when you found out his dirty secrets. But none of that mattered to you, you were still fatally in love with him.
Everything happens for a reason. During these past two years, I've seen you light up at the mere mention of his name. You were too bewitched by his ostentatious smile to listen when people told you he was not worth your time. Your friends spoke until their voices were hoarse telling you that you and him are not meant to be. He's a stuck-up unsettling boy who judges people primarily on their looks. You're a beautiful kind hearted girl who is open to give anybody a chance.
There's someone out there waiting for you. Someone who will tell you how lovely you are and treat you with the respect you deserve. This person won't be perfect because he's only human but he'll try his very best to make you happy. Don't settle for second best, give it time. This boy didn't return your love for him but it doesn't mean there isn't someone who will. You've always been here for me and it's hard to see you so upset over someone who wasn't even worth your single breath. I'm writing a letter for you on my blog because when you read it, it'll be easier for you to understand. Don't let his rejection be a painful nightmare of unrequited love, instead let it be an eminent learning experience that will stay with you for the rest of your life.
Yours
A caring friend
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Monday, January 25, 2010
A moment in time
February 6th 2001
Dear Diary,
It's so unfair! Everyone else is going to this sleepover and I'm not allowed to go. This cute boy everyone likes is going, so why can't I go!? My parents still think I'm a child but I'm turning eight this July! That's only two measly numbers away from a double digit number!
This was a small section of a diary account I had written as an eight year old. Back then, I was still a little girl wanting to keep a journal of her life. Now, almost nine years later, I let every precious moment slip me by without a second thought. What I'm questioning myself now is; how many nine years do I still have left in my life? Another nine years speed by, I'm working. Another nine years pass by, I'm getting married. What's next? Retirement? A primary reason I am aiming to constantly update this blog is because it lets me speak for the present. The present however, only lasts if you never look back. But I want to look back, to reminiscence on all of the thoughts and memories I had once taken for granted.
I was naive to once think love as an eight year old could last forever, or that not going to a silly sleepover was the end of the world. Looking back, I'm glad I made some of the mistakes I had made as a child. It's ultimately your recovery from a fall that defines the person you will someday become. I've on no account been as apprehensive about the future as I am now. I'm scared I'll miss the moments which can alter my life for the better. I don't want to look back someday and see a life full of mistakes, regrets.
I've always been a fair judge of character but I've never ventured below the surface to really understand somebody. I've been afraid to do so incase when I truly understand somebody, I'd see them differently. But on the other hand, I'd be more empathetic towards people with different views to me. It's difficult to say how long a journey I have left to travel or what kind of people I'll meet along the way. I've encountered many interesting and wonderful personas during the sixteen years I've been in this world. They've helped me to see the world in a different light. I know they won't stay forever, but each person owns a moment of my life.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
Silence has the loudest voice
Possibly the most strategic method of both attack and defense I have acquired during this short summer break is the silent approach. I’ve always been a firm believer of communication, using words to solve problems. However, from present encounters I’ve apprehended that words often give a direct scoop into a person’s emotions. The last thing you want an adversary to sense from you is softness. Silence gives a person an enigmatic quality that shields what they are really thinking.
Have you ever stumbled upon moments when your parents are silent towards you after you’ve done something they consider inappropriate? You immediately question your own actions and attempt to decipher what your parents are thinking. When you begin following your parent’s orders or beg for their forgiveness, you’ve succumbed to the power of silence. I remember a few weeks ago my mum was annoyed at me for wearing short shorts. Instead of her usual lectures, she completely ignored me. When I tried to talk to her, she tightened her lips and avoided all eye contact. Finally, I caved into her bizarre new approach and changed into pants.
The fear of not knowing will taunt even the most intrepid of people. When you can’t decipher what a person is thinking, you won’t know how to handle them. The strongest method of defense is to simply say nothing. In a situation where a person is verbally targeting you, say nothing and walk away. In this fashion, not only will you not have any weight to carry, you’ve forced your adversary into a tight corner. If they scream at you while you are walking away, they’ll look unreasonable. On the other hand, if they are silent towards your actions, they are seeping into curiosity. When you leave someone hanging in midair, they’ll naturally wonder why.
People who insult or criticize other people aim to make their victims miserable. However, when the supposed target is silent and walks away, no softness can be sensed. Big fish eat small fish. Small fish eat even smaller fish. If a small fish tries to physically defend itself against a big fish, it will be eradicated. But if the small fish swims away, the big fish will have to seek a new prey. There are people in this world with tongues like knives; the more you wrestle them, the more hurt you will become. If you simply walk away from their assault, you're making a bold statement that their words have no effect on you. Remember the old saying ‘barking dogs seldom bite.’ Don’t be afraid to walk away, the most your attacker can do is bark at you, they won’t bite.
Silence speaks louder than words. Often too much is said when a person is angry. Words can expose many opinionated concepts therefore causing complications. People out of rage have exposed to someone else ‘exactly what they think of them.’ This is especially unnecessary because as annoying as the other person may be, when you ignore them, they’ll instinctively bother somebody else. It will save you from regretting your sudden heat of the moment and prevent you from making a redundant enemy.
When you are silent you are strong, firm and unfathomable. When you are silent towards someone, you are cutting apart all lines of communication with them to give them the impression that you no longer want to be a part of their life.
“Spiteful words can hurt your feelings but silence breaks your heart.”
Have you ever stumbled upon moments when your parents are silent towards you after you’ve done something they consider inappropriate? You immediately question your own actions and attempt to decipher what your parents are thinking. When you begin following your parent’s orders or beg for their forgiveness, you’ve succumbed to the power of silence. I remember a few weeks ago my mum was annoyed at me for wearing short shorts. Instead of her usual lectures, she completely ignored me. When I tried to talk to her, she tightened her lips and avoided all eye contact. Finally, I caved into her bizarre new approach and changed into pants.
The fear of not knowing will taunt even the most intrepid of people. When you can’t decipher what a person is thinking, you won’t know how to handle them. The strongest method of defense is to simply say nothing. In a situation where a person is verbally targeting you, say nothing and walk away. In this fashion, not only will you not have any weight to carry, you’ve forced your adversary into a tight corner. If they scream at you while you are walking away, they’ll look unreasonable. On the other hand, if they are silent towards your actions, they are seeping into curiosity. When you leave someone hanging in midair, they’ll naturally wonder why.
People who insult or criticize other people aim to make their victims miserable. However, when the supposed target is silent and walks away, no softness can be sensed. Big fish eat small fish. Small fish eat even smaller fish. If a small fish tries to physically defend itself against a big fish, it will be eradicated. But if the small fish swims away, the big fish will have to seek a new prey. There are people in this world with tongues like knives; the more you wrestle them, the more hurt you will become. If you simply walk away from their assault, you're making a bold statement that their words have no effect on you. Remember the old saying ‘barking dogs seldom bite.’ Don’t be afraid to walk away, the most your attacker can do is bark at you, they won’t bite.
Silence speaks louder than words. Often too much is said when a person is angry. Words can expose many opinionated concepts therefore causing complications. People out of rage have exposed to someone else ‘exactly what they think of them.’ This is especially unnecessary because as annoying as the other person may be, when you ignore them, they’ll instinctively bother somebody else. It will save you from regretting your sudden heat of the moment and prevent you from making a redundant enemy.
When you are silent you are strong, firm and unfathomable. When you are silent towards someone, you are cutting apart all lines of communication with them to give them the impression that you no longer want to be a part of their life.
“Spiteful words can hurt your feelings but silence breaks your heart.”
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Audrey Hepburn's advice on life
Iconic screen actress Audrey Hepburn emcompassed the grace, elegance and poise few women could ever achieve. But it wasn't just her beauty that stands the test of time, it is her attitude towards life.
For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you will never walk alone.
People even more than things have to be restored, renewed, revivied, reclaimed and redeemed. Never throw out anyone.
For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you will never walk alone.
People even more than things have to be restored, renewed, revivied, reclaimed and redeemed. Never throw out anyone.
The long road ahead
This article is much shorter than my average pieces. It is the product of digging into my mind for days and finally coming up with an article on growing up. This is a difficult topic for me to write about because I'm still maturing, still learning. I'm yet to fully grow up, to walk the long road ahead.
The road ahead for many of us teenagers is a long and arduous one. As soon as we step out of the shells hiding us for seventeen or eighteen years, we will realize there is a greater world for us to decipher. Some will become butterflies breaking out of their cocoons and embracing the warm, sweet sunshine. But for the majority of us, we’ll be like snails deprived of our safe shells, naked, unprotected from the winds and storms ahead.
Fred Dehner once quoted: ‘The best helping hand that you will ever receive is the one at the end of your own arm.’ Leaving home will be like opening our eyes once again, this time wider, freer. We will be responsible for our actions and mistakes. As we seek out looking for jobs, friends and money, we will come to terms valuing how simple life used to be. People you thought were your friends will mature and leave you hanging when you need them. When you reach out for a hand to grab on, you will apprehend that the only hands you will ever need are the ones at the end of your own arms. The materialistic things we once yearned for will be a distant dream without a job and money. Our reveries of seeping away from the stringent grasps of our parents will turn into veracity as we are forced miles apart to earn a living. There is no backbone to rely on when our own spine breaks.
Just like the world keeps on spinning, our lives keep on advancing. I remember watching a Chinese television series and the female lead was going through mountains of difficulties in her life. When she cried out on her father’s shoulder, he said to her: ‘The world will always be round, it’ll never be square.’ What he means by this statement is to have faith in our hearts because in the end everything will be okay. The world will still be round, it won’t be square. This advice can be applied to our own developing years when we take the leap into adulthood. It will be equally a frightful voyage as it is a yearned for escapade. When we can stand on our own two feet and face up to difficulties, we will have reached the destination.
The road ahead for many of us teenagers is a long and arduous one. As soon as we step out of the shells hiding us for seventeen or eighteen years, we will realize there is a greater world for us to decipher. Some will become butterflies breaking out of their cocoons and embracing the warm, sweet sunshine. But for the majority of us, we’ll be like snails deprived of our safe shells, naked, unprotected from the winds and storms ahead.
Fred Dehner once quoted: ‘The best helping hand that you will ever receive is the one at the end of your own arm.’ Leaving home will be like opening our eyes once again, this time wider, freer. We will be responsible for our actions and mistakes. As we seek out looking for jobs, friends and money, we will come to terms valuing how simple life used to be. People you thought were your friends will mature and leave you hanging when you need them. When you reach out for a hand to grab on, you will apprehend that the only hands you will ever need are the ones at the end of your own arms. The materialistic things we once yearned for will be a distant dream without a job and money. Our reveries of seeping away from the stringent grasps of our parents will turn into veracity as we are forced miles apart to earn a living. There is no backbone to rely on when our own spine breaks.
Just like the world keeps on spinning, our lives keep on advancing. I remember watching a Chinese television series and the female lead was going through mountains of difficulties in her life. When she cried out on her father’s shoulder, he said to her: ‘The world will always be round, it’ll never be square.’ What he means by this statement is to have faith in our hearts because in the end everything will be okay. The world will still be round, it won’t be square. This advice can be applied to our own developing years when we take the leap into adulthood. It will be equally a frightful voyage as it is a yearned for escapade. When we can stand on our own two feet and face up to difficulties, we will have reached the destination.
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
Avatar-Work of genius!
One word: AMAZING!!!!!
Sorry, got slightly carried away but Avatar is a once in a lifetime cinematic experience!
Since the creation of Titanic, the world has been waiting for James Cameron's return to the world of film. Now, after almost a decade, Cameron brings to life the amazing story of Avatar.
The film is set in the year 2154 on planet Pandora, a blue moon like planet. Parker Selfridge operates a mining company which aims to exploit the valuable mineral found commonly on Pandora called the unobatium. The unobatium is said to be worth around twenty million dollars a kilogram. The creatures found on Planet Pandora are a race called the Na'vis which are much larger than humans, have very similar appearances to Native Indians and have direct relationships with nature. Dr Grace Augustine, head of the Avatar programme is the genius in charge of researching the Na'vis. Due to the heavy paycheck, Jake Sully acts as a replacement for his murdered brother as an Avatar operator. He is given a genetically engineered body which is made to look like a Na'vi called the Avatar. With the Avatar, Sully seeks out to understand more about the natives and to explore the land of Pandora.
From here, the story really begins.
Sam Worthington is phenomenal as the loyal but irrational Jake Sully. From knowing nothing about the Na'vis to forming an unbreakable bond with them, Worthington's performance is most believable. The audience forms a sense of deep connection with him as he goes on a journey of self-discovery . He holds a sense of admiration towards Neytiri, a Na'vi who saves him upon his arrival on Pandora.(Here comes the cheesy part.) That admiration gradually turns into love as she teaches him to fly and to catch animals. Sigourney Weaver is equally relatable as the overworked head researcher Dr Grace Augustine. She manages to generate an essence of both humour and sedateness. She too goes through a dramatic transformation. She begins her journey with the Na'vis as a mere researcher wanting to know more about their kind. But as she descends into a deeper relationship with the Pandora natives, she too becomes one of them. As she and Scully both fight to keep the Na'vis from being eradicated by biologist Norm Spellman played by Joel David Moore who is after the unobatium found on Pandora, Augustine is injured and killed. From this point on in the movie, Spellman's desire and greed begins to escalate as he loses all human sympathy. Joel David Moore's performance as Spellman dominates the whole movie. His physical appearance gives his character away as a tough and stubborn man which is exactly the case. The muscles on his face and arms tighten when he is angry and the room is quiet when he is speaking. A man with no emotions, no fear.
The movie relies primarily on its graphics and special effects. Watching Avatar in IMAX 3D made the experience come alive. It just goes to show what technology can create and will continue to create for our world. The world of Pandora is breathtaking. From every leaf in the forest to the last blue-skinned creature, the beauty of a non-existent world comes to life. Director James Cameron brings to screen an evolution that took almost ten years to make. But now, completed, Avatar sets a whole new standard for film-makers alike.
Avatar is the new future to film. A mixture of romance and science-fiction, Avatar is easily one of the best films of the year. With an emotional plot, excellent acting and the incredible visual effects, James Cameron waited ten years before Avatar's release. Why? He 'needed to wait until technology catches up.' Avatar is the revolution to cinema that we have all been waiting for.
Sorry, got slightly carried away but Avatar is a once in a lifetime cinematic experience!
Since the creation of Titanic, the world has been waiting for James Cameron's return to the world of film. Now, after almost a decade, Cameron brings to life the amazing story of Avatar.
The film is set in the year 2154 on planet Pandora, a blue moon like planet. Parker Selfridge operates a mining company which aims to exploit the valuable mineral found commonly on Pandora called the unobatium. The unobatium is said to be worth around twenty million dollars a kilogram. The creatures found on Planet Pandora are a race called the Na'vis which are much larger than humans, have very similar appearances to Native Indians and have direct relationships with nature. Dr Grace Augustine, head of the Avatar programme is the genius in charge of researching the Na'vis. Due to the heavy paycheck, Jake Sully acts as a replacement for his murdered brother as an Avatar operator. He is given a genetically engineered body which is made to look like a Na'vi called the Avatar. With the Avatar, Sully seeks out to understand more about the natives and to explore the land of Pandora.
From here, the story really begins.
Sam Worthington is phenomenal as the loyal but irrational Jake Sully. From knowing nothing about the Na'vis to forming an unbreakable bond with them, Worthington's performance is most believable. The audience forms a sense of deep connection with him as he goes on a journey of self-discovery . He holds a sense of admiration towards Neytiri, a Na'vi who saves him upon his arrival on Pandora.(Here comes the cheesy part.) That admiration gradually turns into love as she teaches him to fly and to catch animals. Sigourney Weaver is equally relatable as the overworked head researcher Dr Grace Augustine. She manages to generate an essence of both humour and sedateness. She too goes through a dramatic transformation. She begins her journey with the Na'vis as a mere researcher wanting to know more about their kind. But as she descends into a deeper relationship with the Pandora natives, she too becomes one of them. As she and Scully both fight to keep the Na'vis from being eradicated by biologist Norm Spellman played by Joel David Moore who is after the unobatium found on Pandora, Augustine is injured and killed. From this point on in the movie, Spellman's desire and greed begins to escalate as he loses all human sympathy. Joel David Moore's performance as Spellman dominates the whole movie. His physical appearance gives his character away as a tough and stubborn man which is exactly the case. The muscles on his face and arms tighten when he is angry and the room is quiet when he is speaking. A man with no emotions, no fear.
The movie relies primarily on its graphics and special effects. Watching Avatar in IMAX 3D made the experience come alive. It just goes to show what technology can create and will continue to create for our world. The world of Pandora is breathtaking. From every leaf in the forest to the last blue-skinned creature, the beauty of a non-existent world comes to life. Director James Cameron brings to screen an evolution that took almost ten years to make. But now, completed, Avatar sets a whole new standard for film-makers alike.
Avatar is the new future to film. A mixture of romance and science-fiction, Avatar is easily one of the best films of the year. With an emotional plot, excellent acting and the incredible visual effects, James Cameron waited ten years before Avatar's release. Why? He 'needed to wait until technology catches up.' Avatar is the revolution to cinema that we have all been waiting for.
Steps to Happiness
This is a beautiful poem that lectures us that though we can never be perfect, we can be happy with who we are.
Everybody Knows,
You can't be all things to all people.
You can't do all things at once.
You can't do all things equally well.
You can't do all things better than everyone else.
Your humanity is showing just like everyone else's.
You can't be all things to all people.
You can't do all things at once.
You can't do all things equally well.
You can't do all things better than everyone else.
Your humanity is showing just like everyone else's.
So
You have to find out who you are, and be that.
You have to decide what comes first, and do that.
You have to discover your strengths, and use them.
You have to learn not to compete with others, because no one else is in the contest of "being you".
You have to decide what comes first, and do that.
You have to discover your strengths, and use them.
You have to learn not to compete with others, because no one else is in the contest of "being you".
Then
You will have learned to accept your own uniqueness.
You will have learned to set priorities and make decisions.
You will have learned to live with your limitations.
You will have learned to give yourself the respect that is due.
And you'll be a most vital mortal.
You will have learned to set priorities and make decisions.
You will have learned to live with your limitations.
You will have learned to give yourself the respect that is due.
And you'll be a most vital mortal.
Believe
That you are a wonderful, unique person.
That you are a once-in all history event.
That it's more than a right, it's your duty, to be who you are.
That life is not a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish.
And you'll be able to stay one up on what used to get you down.
That you are a once-in all history event.
That it's more than a right, it's your duty, to be who you are.
That life is not a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish.
And you'll be able to stay one up on what used to get you down.
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
What I now know for sure
After reading the Oprah’s list of all the things she now knows for sure about life, I’ve decided to compose my own what I know for sure list.
1. Believe in God, he creates miracles
I can honestly say now, the best thing that has ever happened in my life is giving my heart to God. He is my consolidation, my best friend. Without God, life would have no moral, no purpose, no meaning. With God, I have the inner strength to fight for what I believe is right and to strive for my dreams.
2. Nobody will dip their hands in the fire for you
Nobody will risk their own life for you, that is why you need to take care of yourself and never put your life on hold for someone else.
3. Family comes before friends
This is really common sense. Friends are temporary and they’re good for a laugh at the best of times. But through rain, hail and snow, no matter what hardships you face you will realize family are the only people you can really turn to for help.
4. There is no such thing as true love
Love is temporary, your prince charming will not love you when your face is wrinkled and you’re suffering from arthritis.
5. Never put your life on hold for someone else
Because sooner or later they'll let you down
6. If in doubt, don’t do it
Follow your gut feeling, it won’t mislead you.
7. Hard work really does pay off
When you've put in the effort, you're bound to see the results.
8. It’s okay to disagree
We are special because we have different minds that think differently. As I've learnt from debating, there is never a definite answer to a problem. Except maybe in math.
9. Nothing lasts forever
Especially not true love! Love ends, friendship ends, life ends.
I will be creating a new 'What I now know for sure' list every month to express what new principles I have learnt that month.
1. Believe in God, he creates miracles
I can honestly say now, the best thing that has ever happened in my life is giving my heart to God. He is my consolidation, my best friend. Without God, life would have no moral, no purpose, no meaning. With God, I have the inner strength to fight for what I believe is right and to strive for my dreams.
2. Nobody will dip their hands in the fire for you
Nobody will risk their own life for you, that is why you need to take care of yourself and never put your life on hold for someone else.
3. Family comes before friends
This is really common sense. Friends are temporary and they’re good for a laugh at the best of times. But through rain, hail and snow, no matter what hardships you face you will realize family are the only people you can really turn to for help.
4. There is no such thing as true love
Love is temporary, your prince charming will not love you when your face is wrinkled and you’re suffering from arthritis.
5. Never put your life on hold for someone else
Because sooner or later they'll let you down
6. If in doubt, don’t do it
Follow your gut feeling, it won’t mislead you.
7. Hard work really does pay off
When you've put in the effort, you're bound to see the results.
8. It’s okay to disagree
We are special because we have different minds that think differently. As I've learnt from debating, there is never a definite answer to a problem. Except maybe in math.
9. Nothing lasts forever
Especially not true love! Love ends, friendship ends, life ends.
I will be creating a new 'What I now know for sure' list every month to express what new principles I have learnt that month.
Monday, January 4, 2010
Do you remember a little girl named LOLITA?
'How did they ever make a movie on Lolita?'
Stanley Kubrick, movie mastermind and one of the first directors to explore the theme of sexual obsession, a subject much despised in the 1960s and 70s. Lolita is a twelve year old nypmphet who falls prey to the sexual obsessions of a forty year old college professor named Humbert. Humbert has a perverse infatuation towards young girls. He deviously marries Lolita's widowed and sexually desperate mother in order to take advantage of her daughter. When Lolita's mother dies of a traffic accident, Humbert manipulates Lolita into doing sexual favors for him.
The idea of sexual obsession is very evident in the film as many of the characters are sexually active. Lolita for instance loses her virginity at age twelve to a boy she had met at camp and continuously engages in sexual activities with various men throughout the movie. Humbert is perhaps the most misunderstood character in the film. Unlike Lolita who is looking for pleasure through sex, Humbert is looking for love through sex. His lesson learnt is that it is easy to have a person's body but it is difficult to have their heart. Lolita never returned his love for her and jumped at any occassion to escape him. Quilty, the man whom Lolita falls in love and runs away with is the real person to blame in the film. He tricks Lolita into thinking he would anything for her and abandons her as soon she does not comply to his commands. Lolita's mother Charlotte, widowed and desperately seeking for replacement love makes the biggest mistake of her life by marrying Humbert. Lesson learnt from her mistake: If there is even a single doubt in your mind about getting married, don't go ahead with it.
Lolita seems too complex to be compared with reality. The truth is, it is very close to what happens in our own world today but more subtle. Sexual obsessions in our own time era revolves around one night stands, rape, money and what more. Movies based around sex are very common in today's society. Sex is glamourized and encouraged as a natural human instinct. When Lolita was released in 1962, the world was still very primitive and quiet on the matters of sex, especially with a minor. Lolita's release made a bold statement on how destructive human nature is. Thankfully, Kubrick was a director who was not afraid to challenge the odds. Some may say he was too ahead of his time, but honestly, the only thing that has changed about sexual obsession is the way human beings view it.
I do not encourage sex and neither does this article. The point of me writing this is to pull Lolita apart and view it from our own time period, the twenty first century.
Stanley Kubrick, movie mastermind and one of the first directors to explore the theme of sexual obsession, a subject much despised in the 1960s and 70s. Lolita is a twelve year old nypmphet who falls prey to the sexual obsessions of a forty year old college professor named Humbert. Humbert has a perverse infatuation towards young girls. He deviously marries Lolita's widowed and sexually desperate mother in order to take advantage of her daughter. When Lolita's mother dies of a traffic accident, Humbert manipulates Lolita into doing sexual favors for him.
The idea of sexual obsession is very evident in the film as many of the characters are sexually active. Lolita for instance loses her virginity at age twelve to a boy she had met at camp and continuously engages in sexual activities with various men throughout the movie. Humbert is perhaps the most misunderstood character in the film. Unlike Lolita who is looking for pleasure through sex, Humbert is looking for love through sex. His lesson learnt is that it is easy to have a person's body but it is difficult to have their heart. Lolita never returned his love for her and jumped at any occassion to escape him. Quilty, the man whom Lolita falls in love and runs away with is the real person to blame in the film. He tricks Lolita into thinking he would anything for her and abandons her as soon she does not comply to his commands. Lolita's mother Charlotte, widowed and desperately seeking for replacement love makes the biggest mistake of her life by marrying Humbert. Lesson learnt from her mistake: If there is even a single doubt in your mind about getting married, don't go ahead with it.
Lolita seems too complex to be compared with reality. The truth is, it is very close to what happens in our own world today but more subtle. Sexual obsessions in our own time era revolves around one night stands, rape, money and what more. Movies based around sex are very common in today's society. Sex is glamourized and encouraged as a natural human instinct. When Lolita was released in 1962, the world was still very primitive and quiet on the matters of sex, especially with a minor. Lolita's release made a bold statement on how destructive human nature is. Thankfully, Kubrick was a director who was not afraid to challenge the odds. Some may say he was too ahead of his time, but honestly, the only thing that has changed about sexual obsession is the way human beings view it.
I do not encourage sex and neither does this article. The point of me writing this is to pull Lolita apart and view it from our own time period, the twenty first century.
Friday, January 1, 2010
All you need is love...?
Happy New Year Everyone! Although the year 2009 has held many wonderful memories of excitement, comfort, happiness and exhaustion from all our of exams, I'm sure 2010 will be just as exciting! For all of the teenagers who are going back to school very shortly, we may look forward to another year of back-aching study! But hey, it's a new year, new plans, new events, new goals, same old us.
Firstly, the possibility of eternal love is ludicrous. Relationships fall apart for the most ridiculous of reasons. Through watching the movie Moulin Rouge, I have picked out many minor errors from both of the main characters. For example, with Christian in the film I did not relish of his reasonably short height. If I were Satine, I would have dumped him without a second thought. This is just an exemplar to prove that love in reality breaks down due to the silliest of vindications.
Can you really live on wholly love? Do you really expect it to provide you with decent food and clothes to wear? Would you really give you life away to save the person you love, or is there more to life than blind love? Although the Duke in Moulin Rouge who also falls in love with Satine looks vastly unattractive in comparison to Christian, not only will he be able to feed me, dress me and keep me alive, he can make me into a star. A dashing young lover with absolutely nothing economically to offer me or a relatively repulsive Duke with bag-full of cash? Who will be worth my time in the long run?
In reality, Christian and Satines' love although strong, will not last forever. Satine, although beautiful at the present moment, old age will eventually hit her. As the song from Moulin Rouge goes: 'Men grow cold as girls grow old...' Yes men do grow cold as their spouses grow old because we all know men prefer young supple looking women. Unfortunately for all the beauties in this world not planning to go under the knife, time will gladly take a great toll on your appearance.
Moulin Rouge stays true to the actuality that love cannot save a person from death and fate alike. Love is abstract, it cannot heal or soothe the physical pain felt by an individual. Sure, it act as an demulcent for sentimental pains, but even then it can't mend a broken heart. Once a person has loved and lost, the mark carves itself onto their memory for the rest of their existence. No extent of love can cure a person of the pain experienced in their past. It might cover up the smell, but it can never fully eliminate the odour that lingers onto a person for life.
This article is due to my sudden cognizance of the great influence romantic films have on people. This is a wake up call to all of the women and girls out there waiting for their Prince Charmings or their Christians in the case of Moulin Rouge, there is no such thing as eternal love nor can love conquer all. We need to rely on ourselves and not on non-existent Mr Perfect. I love the movie Moulin Rouge because it does its job; it takes me on a transcendent journey far away from my everyday life. It pulls me into an experience I will probably never experience in person. In spite of writing this article, I do still someday want to fall in love just to see what it feels like, because love, as stated in Moulin Rouge is still 'Many a Splendid Things.'
Firstly, the possibility of eternal love is ludicrous. Relationships fall apart for the most ridiculous of reasons. Through watching the movie Moulin Rouge, I have picked out many minor errors from both of the main characters. For example, with Christian in the film I did not relish of his reasonably short height. If I were Satine, I would have dumped him without a second thought. This is just an exemplar to prove that love in reality breaks down due to the silliest of vindications.
Can you really live on wholly love? Do you really expect it to provide you with decent food and clothes to wear? Would you really give you life away to save the person you love, or is there more to life than blind love? Although the Duke in Moulin Rouge who also falls in love with Satine looks vastly unattractive in comparison to Christian, not only will he be able to feed me, dress me and keep me alive, he can make me into a star. A dashing young lover with absolutely nothing economically to offer me or a relatively repulsive Duke with bag-full of cash? Who will be worth my time in the long run?
In reality, Christian and Satines' love although strong, will not last forever. Satine, although beautiful at the present moment, old age will eventually hit her. As the song from Moulin Rouge goes: 'Men grow cold as girls grow old...' Yes men do grow cold as their spouses grow old because we all know men prefer young supple looking women. Unfortunately for all the beauties in this world not planning to go under the knife, time will gladly take a great toll on your appearance.
Moulin Rouge stays true to the actuality that love cannot save a person from death and fate alike. Love is abstract, it cannot heal or soothe the physical pain felt by an individual. Sure, it act as an demulcent for sentimental pains, but even then it can't mend a broken heart. Once a person has loved and lost, the mark carves itself onto their memory for the rest of their existence. No extent of love can cure a person of the pain experienced in their past. It might cover up the smell, but it can never fully eliminate the odour that lingers onto a person for life.
This article is due to my sudden cognizance of the great influence romantic films have on people. This is a wake up call to all of the women and girls out there waiting for their Prince Charmings or their Christians in the case of Moulin Rouge, there is no such thing as eternal love nor can love conquer all. We need to rely on ourselves and not on non-existent Mr Perfect. I love the movie Moulin Rouge because it does its job; it takes me on a transcendent journey far away from my everyday life. It pulls me into an experience I will probably never experience in person. In spite of writing this article, I do still someday want to fall in love just to see what it feels like, because love, as stated in Moulin Rouge is still 'Many a Splendid Things.'
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