Possibly the most strategic method of both attack and defense I have acquired during this short summer break is the silent approach. I’ve always been a firm believer of communication, using words to solve problems. However, from present encounters I’ve apprehended that words often give a direct scoop into a person’s emotions. The last thing you want an adversary to sense from you is softness. Silence gives a person an enigmatic quality that shields what they are really thinking.
Have you ever stumbled upon moments when your parents are silent towards you after you’ve done something they consider inappropriate? You immediately question your own actions and attempt to decipher what your parents are thinking. When you begin following your parent’s orders or beg for their forgiveness, you’ve succumbed to the power of silence. I remember a few weeks ago my mum was annoyed at me for wearing short shorts. Instead of her usual lectures, she completely ignored me. When I tried to talk to her, she tightened her lips and avoided all eye contact. Finally, I caved into her bizarre new approach and changed into pants.
The fear of not knowing will taunt even the most intrepid of people. When you can’t decipher what a person is thinking, you won’t know how to handle them. The strongest method of defense is to simply say nothing. In a situation where a person is verbally targeting you, say nothing and walk away. In this fashion, not only will you not have any weight to carry, you’ve forced your adversary into a tight corner. If they scream at you while you are walking away, they’ll look unreasonable. On the other hand, if they are silent towards your actions, they are seeping into curiosity. When you leave someone hanging in midair, they’ll naturally wonder why.
People who insult or criticize other people aim to make their victims miserable. However, when the supposed target is silent and walks away, no softness can be sensed. Big fish eat small fish. Small fish eat even smaller fish. If a small fish tries to physically defend itself against a big fish, it will be eradicated. But if the small fish swims away, the big fish will have to seek a new prey. There are people in this world with tongues like knives; the more you wrestle them, the more hurt you will become. If you simply walk away from their assault, you're making a bold statement that their words have no effect on you. Remember the old saying ‘barking dogs seldom bite.’ Don’t be afraid to walk away, the most your attacker can do is bark at you, they won’t bite.
Silence speaks louder than words. Often too much is said when a person is angry. Words can expose many opinionated concepts therefore causing complications. People out of rage have exposed to someone else ‘exactly what they think of them.’ This is especially unnecessary because as annoying as the other person may be, when you ignore them, they’ll instinctively bother somebody else. It will save you from regretting your sudden heat of the moment and prevent you from making a redundant enemy.
When you are silent you are strong, firm and unfathomable. When you are silent towards someone, you are cutting apart all lines of communication with them to give them the impression that you no longer want to be a part of their life.
“Spiteful words can hurt your feelings but silence breaks your heart.”
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